Wednesday, December 30, 2009


Beverly is Allen's mom and the best grandma, the kids call her GaGa. She flew in from Milwaukee.   I wish she was out here with us.  We spent our time with her this week.  I'm thankful for Sunrise so I don't have to worry about my Mom every moment and we can take the time to live in our moments too.  Beverly is 82!  Her birthday was Christmas eve.   This is a photo of them watching Coraline at home in 3-D.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Candy Canes

The girls and I went to Nana's on Christmas day.  .

 I brought the girls, their pajamas, the dog and candy canes.

It was very sweet.  The girls would go up to someone and say "merry christmas, would you like a candy cane" and it was like disney animatroinics, or that they had just put a coin in an old time carnival machine.  They would suddenly smile and say thank you and put out their hands and even hug them.  Gidget who normally will not go to anyone but me or her Dad reaches out to them, and let's them hug her, and she hugs back....I love candy canes.

We hung out in Nana's room and they played with a play dough ice cream shoppe that "Nana" got them, watched a video, ate egg salad sandwiches and listened to the Nutcracker.  It was lovely, and slow and we didn't have anywhere to go, except there.  Nana seemed to be getting further and further away as the sun went down and began mumbling to herself, and we were tired so it was time to go home.

Gidgey hitched a ride on her walker and she sat by the christmas tree and I gave her a few cookies and we kissed her goodnight.

Holiday party family photo

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Christmas Cards

I spent the day with my Mom yesterday.  Without the girls... Beverly, my mother-in-law was here so she stayed home and played with them.  I went to the bank to get some cash for tips for her team and had ordered some cards from  for the holidays to benefit Alzheimer's Association . I also stopped and got us two fancy cupcakes.  When I got there...she was in her position in front of the TV with the other residents.  Her position is so slouched, it might actually be called lying down.  I think she is comfortable, I slowly walk up to her and enter her sight, and she see's me and smiles.  "Hi, Lois"
So we walk the slow way down the hall to her room.  It's always new.  She likes it here.  Always comments how nice it is.
We hang out... we look at cards people sent.  I help her send some.  She signed her name.  She can still do that.  I tell her to put the card in the envelope...she laughs so hard trying to do it.  She says, she's old.  She gets the card in the envelope.  We eat a cupcake.
I change her clothes.  I'm just not used to her in sweatpants and a t-shirt.  I don't think I ever saw her in sweatpants and a t-shirt her whole life.  Whose grey sweatpants are these anyway?  I put on some grey slacks and a pretty light blue top and a pin.  Brush her hair and we take the slow walk back down the hall to the dining area.  They are going on a ride tonight to look at lights.  I hope she'll go, it's hard to get her to do things.  Her first instict is "no."  She'll love it, and enjoy it for the moment.  It is better than slouching on the couch, isn't it?

Happy Holidays!!!

Nana was so happy when we came over with presents and took her downstairs to the Holiday party.  She kept saying "What a nice surprise!"

Tuesday, December 15, 2009


We camped out at Nana's afters chool yesterday.  Gidget and I go over there a lot, we just went to Target and got her some warmer clothes and pajamas and re-organized her closets the other day.  Gidgey is easy.  Today we all went for some holiday cheer. Paul's family sent a little tree and we were bringing cookies and a big poinsietta.   I had told Sunny about a surprise there.  A special music snowglobe to decorate her room of Nutcracker (Sunny's favorite) and she was excited to see it.  So excited, she wanted to take it home with her.... this lead to a fight and crying and frustration.  And a trial lesson in giving and... finally she put it back after me telling her that I actually got it special for her.....  Right lesson?  I don't know.. In the car on the way home she said "Mom, sometimes I feel like you love Nana more than me because you get her more stuff."  I felt so defeated.  This is not the lesson, (not that I'm even trying to teach a lesson) just instill values about family to my girls, and make my Mom not such a vegetable.  It's not about STUFF.  It was late... Gidgey was blabbing, I couldn't concentrate.  Sunny and I just got scolded in the lobby for her knocking down a big giant nutcracker.... (it was an accident, and she cried and I consoled her and we felt bad and all wanted to leave.)  She's only 6!  Anyway, that's right, she is only 6.  She doesn't know what "stuff" actually means.  Does she?

So, this morning, when we had breakfast and I had thought about it, and picked my bruised feelings up off the floor, we talked.  I told her it's about family, it's about love and love is not about stuff.  And that actually Nana doesn't care about any of the stuff.  And I told her the very best thing I bring," is you and Gidget".  It really is true.  We sit on the couch and watch them play and draw and interact with each other.  She tells me I have a nice family and how cute the girls are, and we smile.  We put on music, we dance, laugh, we wear lipstick, we hold hands and hug each other.

  And Gidget shows her boo boo and tells her all about her shot, and Nana kisses it.  That's the good stuff. 

Sunday, December 6, 2009

Mary Poppins

Mary PoppinsAllen and Sunny and Peggy and I went to see Mary Poppins on stage yesterday.  It was so, so, well..... it was SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPEALIDOCIOUS!
It really was, it was wonderful.  I was so happy, it was hard getting my Mom there and being on time, but we did it.  My friend Jacki has a friend who helped get us the best seats (unfortunately) because they were right in the middle!!!  Peggy had a lot of trouble walking through the aisle to the seat.  But,
(I'm not kidding) every single person was polite and asked if we needed help.  She sat down, the lights went down, I was holding Sunny's and my Mom's hand, Allen handed out chocolate and WOW!  It was so cool.  The sets, lights, costumes, singing, jokes everything was really fun.  Looking at Sunny I remembered my Mom taking me downtown Chicago to see a show, and being all dressed up and excited, just like she was now right next to me.  Looking at my Mom, I knew this would be her last show, sitting right next to me.  I was overwhelmed.  I cried when Mary flew over the stage and it was over.

Take a deep breath, back to reality as the light go up and we wait for everyone to leave so we can get out at our own pace.  A wheelchair was waiting for us as she slowly eeked down the aisle.  All of a sudden she doesn't look so good, she thinks she's going to throw up.... yikes.  I get the puple plastic bag I carry her depends in and hand it to her.  She makes it to the wheel chair and whoosh....we go into the bathroom and.... well she got most of it in the bag.

Turns out,  the whole 3rd floor at Sunrise has the flu.  Everyone has been throwing up, Peggy just got sick.  It wasn't the Alzheimer's.  It was the Alzheimer's that made her not be able to tell me that she didn't feel good.  Holy moly, I dropped Allen and Sunny off and Alla met me at Sunrise with a wheelchair and we got her into the bathroom. All I have to say is, we would of had to buy a new car if we didn't make it.

Peggy is okay now,  it has stopped.  She's on the mend. The gals up there are GREAT, helping her and helping me not worry. ... to stay away,so we don't get it.

 Gidgey got it around noon today, all over me, she's better now too, asleep, 3 sets of pj's later.  Even the dog has been throwing up all day.

Sunny's been listening to the CD all day and talking about Mary Poppins and singing her favorite parts and looking at her program.  As for me, I just got out of the shower.

Mary Poppins

Friday, December 4, 2009

Paper work....

ACCKK!!  Taking my Mom to USC memory and aging center.  She is going to participate in reasearch and study about the disease.  Where's the e-mail, where's the address, what time? I need a list of current meds.  Her MRI, that I gave to, directions, healthcare, I didn't fill out this past medical history form yet.  I still need to take a shower.... Call Sunrise, they'll have her ready.  Thank goodness for that.... and for Noddy (the silly show Gidgey is watching) Why am I on the computer when I have all this stuff to do, that I thought I already did.

We ALL had fun!

It was a great Thanksging week.  PJ came out straight from Ithaca, and then Peggy Lu and Eli came in the next night.  We had ages from 2- 79!  All with different needs and attitudes.  Ha, ha, everyone worked together and we had a lot of fun and did a lot.  My friend and her family had us ALL over to her house for a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner, THANKS SARAH!!!

Here's a little sample of our week.

Went to two school Thanksgiving celebrations!Went to the beach and explored tide pools.ate sushi!

Shopped re-sale on Melrose.

Drove through In and Out Burger with Bee!
               Gidgey cooked for Nana. Went to the Podiatrist.


PJ painted nails.

and we just hung out.

Allen took the kids bowling while Peggy Lu and I stayed at Nana's and looked at old pictures and I can't remember what else.....but that it was so nice to have everyone around and including my Mom in on everything.